for your VR, i think your best bet would be to look at your existing harness and take note of where every connection on the alternator ends up on the VR, and install the new kit to match. for the extra wires, study the voltage regulator itself to see if there are connectors in those positions, if not, the extra wires are useless, and may be cut off or coiled out of the way, your choice. if there are connectors for those wires, a wiring diagram might help you find where they go. one may be an extra ground, or for a feature your car doesn't have...
the first thing to do is unplug the existing harness from the VR and make sure the new one fits, then go from there