The head bolt washers I bought was a "Mr Gasket" brand set. Any speed shop should have these. These not only compensate for the milled head, but also allow for a better overall torque.
I too had 'professional" reman engine and the head bolts were loose. I lost a head gasket as a result. I have since found out that (at least with Jasper) you are expected to 'check' the head bolt torque which essentually means "finish torquing them down". I didn't expect this and I so didn't. I expected that for $1200 they would have been done already. Shoz' what I knew! I'd bet that's what happened to yours too!
As far as the tranny goes, it may not have been overhauled when the engine was. The leaks you mention are all leaks that an old or worn tranny might have, except for one you might not know about...a cooling line! :arrow: One of the cooling line connections into the side of a C4 has an odd ball 90* elbow that has a seal between it and the brass fitting into the tranny. This seal is difficult to get right since it can be either too tight or too loose! It has to go up just snug enough to seat the little beveled 'o' ring, but not crush or tear it or go in past the sealing point. If it's in too far, or not far enough, it will leak tranny fluid all over everything, and you may well think all the seals are leaking! I know I thought that. I even had fluid spray on the rear bumper and tail lights! This can happen especially after an engine/tranny swap 'cuz you will have had the lines out or moved. The first time I encountered this I thought that by merely tightening the elbow into the fitting tighter it would fix it. Nope! It only made it worse. The "O" ring fits into a seat that goes around the elbow threads about a quarter of an inch up into the middle of the threads, not at the end of the fitting like you would think. I wouldn't have believed this set up if I hadn't taken the thing out and looked at it. I suggest you stop by your local tranny shop and have them look it over and get an estimate so you might have a better idea what's wrong. Then, fix it yourself! This might well be the only leak you actually have. It will probably need a new "O" ring.
Good luck!
Harry